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Gaslighting women LOL. It is not gender biased--meaning trying tobsway women to be subservient and men dominant.. Its irrelevant who set it up, that's a fallicious arugment. But since you brought it up it does have basis on the hierarchy of human needs from psychology papers.
Categorization involves finding the limits that determine a category, you could probably break it into a 100 or more, but then you add complexity for no reason, these are distilled to the most base set.
If you don't want to like it because of a pastor you can get a similar scooe with Ortan-Gilingham method since it was backed by science research not just anecdotes from those tested.
I disagree it all boils to acts of service. For example I score high on Physical touch, but it doesn't require an act of service like a back massage, just lying next to my wife with our skin touching is enough to keep my tank full. She could be asleep so there is 0 act of service. It a basic human skin to skin thing like when they say babies (and chimp studies) should have skin to skin contact with mom.
But buy me a gift or do something for me has no tank filling properties. Its nice but, meh