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Would you call yourself a feminist? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 weeks ago by wuphysics87@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I'm a cis male and I believe in the importance of feminism, but I hesitate to call myself a feminist because it seems like there is a presumption of understanding women's experiences as if I was part of the Me Too movement. In some binary sense given how hateful and shitty men can be I'm absolutely a feminist, but I wouldn't declare myself to be one. What is your standpoint?

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[–] DisasterTransport@startrek.website 4 points 2 weeks ago

I tend to be fairly sensitive, and I haven't been very successful in quieting my own kneejerk defensiveness when "yes all men" and "male tears" come out. A lot of feminists are justifiably angry but I don't have to stay in a room where I don't feel welcome.

So I tend not to label myself a feminist even though I agree with feminists on most things. I vote for feminist candidates, I'll defend feminism when people tell lies about it, but I can't be a feminist myself because I can't participate in it.