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The issue becomes that we now have omnisexual, polysexual, pansexual, and bisexual.
We have labels on top of labels to describe once natural, barely labeled human behavior, millennia ago, even centuries ago in many precolonial parts of the world. In many cultures people just were who they were, they didn't need to declare themselves as one thing to make sure that people didn't commit the ultimate scandal: classifying them with another group. And I get that I'm being exaggerative here, and I am not ignorant to the fact that much of this behavior arises against societal violence (not only physical) from the assumed normative identity (whiteness, heterosexual, cis, etc...).
But we don't unfuck this hegemonic society by further segregations of increasingly niche labels, while placing more weight on such labels. It is no coincidence these arise mainly from online or otherwise reclusive, isolated spaces. The ~~death~~ murder of third spaces, unions, community, and collective action is designed to do exactly such things.
All this to say, as I mentioned in another comment that I don't think labels are inherently destructive, but that we have lost ourselves: as a species, as a society, as individuals. We don't really know what healthy human behavior outside of a hegemonic, capitalist, imperial world looks like. It's why things like anthropology are so important, but that also has so many issues that stem from the same hegemonic corruption of academia. In "losing" ourselves, we place such great importance on helpful but limited labels to close that subconscious hole of identity loss. And they start out small, but increase and become gaping. The ironic part is by now, this has so little to do specifically with bisexuality or pansexuality, and my critiques have broadened. I really am not attached to one label over another, but that doesn't mean that I think we can just keep defining new ones to compensate.
Like someone responding to you said, it simply results in what we were always going to have to do, talk and get to know complex people. Instead of "oh there's x person. He's gay, but a twink not a bear, and I heard he's problematic because x thing vs y thing..." And yes, I have heard people shove entire infinitely diverse human beings so violently into little boxes, so they "know" immediately how to judge them, pity them, hate them, etc...
Sorry this is so long. I have a lot of thoughts on this wider conversation about labels and our modernist society's addiction to classifying everything and anything. Like you said, and Alan Watts, life isn't boxes. As he says, there are no straight lines in nature just wibbles.