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I’ve had my first job for a year now. My partner got his dream job which requires us to move. My job had an office in that state. But because of stupid in person team rules from this aloof dipshit VP (came from Amazon surprise surprise) they won’t let me move and keep working.

I thought if I could be reasonable and up front they would work with me. But now I’m just a corpse to them. Already working on replacing me. Even though it will be more expensive and might tank the project per the teams advice. I’m on 4 hours sleep right now so might just be ranting.

But I am disconcerted by the level of visceral hatred I feel towards this VP. So detached, so caught up in vapid buzzwords. Where do these people come from. Why are there so many of them in positions of power. How do I handle these feelings without making my partner feel guilty.

I’ve probably made a straw man out of him. He probably has a family and interests. I don’t like how I feel this way. I’ve never felt this way. I don’t want to go back out into the job market.

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[–] spy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 51 points 2 days ago (4 children)

This post does not answer your question but maybe will make you manage your expectations differently in the future.

When it comes to work, no company has your best interests in minds unless they align with theirs.

Never believe promises of future improvement. Whether that is a promotion, relocation you want or don't want and they don't want or want you to, change to a more interesting position, anything.

If you believe the "maybe one day", they'll milk you as long as they can until you decide they're not doing anything about it. It's not profitable.

It's not profitable to keep employees happy. It's easier to keep them for as long as they can as cheap as they can and replace them when needed. The time it takes a manager to allocate you to another project or location is better spent recruiting 3 new people for said location.

You should not be loyal to any company. It's a transaction. They pay you for your time. Don't give them time they are not paying for. Don't be loyal. If a company wants to fire you, they won't hesitate. Be friend with coworkers if you want, person to person. Not to the company.

HR is there to protect the company, not you.

Exceptions are rare. And probably all of said exceptions are in small companies, and with someone above you who cares about you and has some decision power. But it's rare.

Just keep in mind: no matter how good a company is, when they want to fire you, they won't hesitate. Even if you just lost your marriage, house, and a relative perished the day before. That's not their problem.

So, when things are always behind schedule and asking overtime is the norm: "Your lack of planning does not constitute an emergency on my part". You pay with your time.

I'm sorry for the grim point of view.

[–] pelespirit@sh.itjust.works 29 points 2 days ago (2 children)

It’s not profitable to keep employees happy

That's only for short term, long term it's very profitable.

[–] chickenf622@sh.itjust.works 18 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That's how a lot of execs think though. Short term gains while ignoring any long term losses that out weigh it.

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 2 points 1 day ago

Because they've lined their pockets and will bail before it crumbles.

[–] spy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago

Agreed, but like @chickenf622@sh.itjust.works said.. Next quarter's numbers must go up!

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 7 points 1 day ago

It's not profitable to keep employees happy.

This is completely untrue. Happy employees are far more productive and net a return on the investment. There's been numerous studies showing this, but it doesn't look good on a quarterly report so they don't do it.

[–] schipelblorp@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 day ago

As a society, we are driving ourselves into a decade-long global depression in a desperate attempt to throw every worker into unemployment and replace them with AI. It's never been more obvious that workers are fully expendable.

[–] lemmyng@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Even if you just lost your marriage, house, and a relative perished the day before.

I had gotten back from a month off work due to my dad dying. The very next month they fired me all because I refused to take one troubleshooting call that would've turned my shift into a back-to-back.

That was a year and a half ago. I'm still looking for work.

[–] daychilde@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

In 1997 I lost my mom and got a week off from work because we had a local service but also had to travel a day away for where most of her family was and where part of her remains were to be buried (cremation).

A week or so after that, I got the flu. They fired me because they had already given me time off for my mother's passing, and now I wanted time off for being sick?

Yep. Companies give no fucks.