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Or just have a nice time?
Gonna be hard to simply have a nice time when you get blindsided with a change of plans after you were probably very much looking forward to the date you thought was agreed to.
Why would you do that?? Unthinkable.
only if weβre going dutch
Or French
Usually that's a third date conversation
Why bring the third on the first date then?
I had this happen a lifetime ago back when I was a teen still. I think itβs not that unusual to have this happen when you are young and new to dating. I wasnβt totally sure it was an official date and neither were they, so they brought a friend along. We all had a fun time hanging out!
I think this reads as something someone new to the dating world would do. I think it felt natural because the nature of if it was even a date wasnβt something concrete. If we both were showing up with stronger romantic intentions it might have felt unnatural, but we were acquaintances already and this was more of a vibe check at the time.
While neither of us were interested in pursuing things romantically, we did remain friends. Not that intentional romantic pursuit was even on the mind really.
And that's the healthy response I'm advocating for!
donβt hate the player; hate the game
It's just intentions. If I went with a friend to go to the beach and they bring me to the bowling alley it's not exactly what I was wanting to do.
Why are we so obsessed with making sure everybody understands that bringing a friend when you meet an online stranger is wrong? And no one talking about the guys mean spirited attempt at "teaching her a lesson" instead of just... saying what the fuck his problem is?
Because consent matters.