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Met with a girl for dinner after talking for a week or so on tinder. We pretty much agreed if the date went well we would go back to my place and fuck. We both were recently tested for STDs and she was on the stick in the arm BC. She was kinky and into a lot of the same things I was. Date went well so we spent the night together. She calls me a couple days later and tells me she's sorry but she has/had gonorrhea. As well as that when told me she had been tested recently, she had, she just hadn't gotten the results yet. The sex was unprotected and I was pissed. I told her it was clearly deceptive and I wasn't interested in talking to her anymore. She was angry, urged me to reconsider and argued it's not a big deal. I said regardless of the fact its a quick cure with antibiotics the initial deception completely soured me. She then went on a rant about how the sex wasn't even that good because I wouldn't punch her during. Tune quickly changed to I'm the bad guy/bad lay and she wants nothing to do with me. Blocked but not forgotten.
Yeah, I don't mind being rough but literally punching is a hard line for me. I'm also really big so it feels extra dangerous.
YIKES.
Hopefully the gon didn't happen or is gone. People like that are shitty and fast. Don't stand for it. It's unfortunately all too common.
Didn't happen but I saw my doctor and got a course of antibiotics that week anyway.
I don't know dude. You had unprotected sex with a stranger from the Internet and got a treatable STI. That seems like a potential outcome going into it
I agree, do you think I should have kept talking to her though? I was more bothered by the fact she told me she was recently tested and was clean. Then finding out she was tested but the results weren't in yet.
Lmao absolutely not. Move on. People that lie aren't worth the stress.
Also, you have to wonder what else they'll lie about for sex. Good way to catch something more serious, or become a parent. Not worth the risk, regardless of gender. Better rub one out and move on than ruin your life.
Self iduced moment of clarity in order to gtfo
Really up to you. Likely not because of the honesty but up to you.