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Prerequisite: Groom reasonably well. Nobody wants to be friends with someone who stinks or looks filthy. Shower, deodorant, brush your teeth, wear clean clothes, have some dignity in general.
Then I think the key is to have hobbies and engage in those hobbies in some kind of group. Go out and take a class or join an event of some kind. Make an effort to listen and talk to people (don't talk without listening, and don't overwhelm people with infodumps). Give people a complement. Wear your hobbies on your sleeve, and make it clear what you're into so that other people (if you're into video games, wear gaming merch or culture stuff. If you're into metal music, wear metal band merch.)
There's a fine balance between playing it cool and fading into the background because you're hiding who you are. You've gotta be a little bit cringe to be yourself in public, but if you lay it on too thick it can be a turnoff.