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When I yapped in the thread I posted about Whipping Girl, I was pretty hostile to the use of the terms TMA and TME. Seeing people use them essentially as slurs on tumblr will do that to you, (fell for it again) but that doesn't make the terms bad, obviously. The AcidSmiley post was a good read on that subject. But I've carried a skepticism with me regarding both the idea of trans men taking over spaces/pushing transfems out of spaces, and the concept that anyone could hold a "non-binary supremacy" sort of viewpoint. Mostly this was because I was introduced to these concepts, respectively, through a novel and Whipping Girl. But if you've been on tumblr, you've also seen the shit that anyone transfem gets on that site daily. Maybe even experienced it.

I was told that some of what's written in Whipping Girl might have been more relevant two decades ago, and the above plus reading some stuff from the 90s as well has led me to writing this. There wasn't any good reason for me to be skeptical of people's experiences in queer communities, that thread or anywhere else. Wasn't following "No investigation, no right to speak" and alienated others over it. I don't like that I did that.

Also I took the nothorses tumblr post at face value, which was a colossal L. Imagine talking shit about psyops on tumblr and then taking a tumblr post at face value? You can only grow by admitting to your faults.

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[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 5 points 1 week ago

I'm trying to read this in good faith but I'm struggling to get what this is supposed to be other than trying to justify trans-misogyny erasure. Like you bring up white supremacy in trans communities immediately after claiming that TMA/TME terms drive a wedge in the trans community. The latter is just class reductionist all-lives-matter "we need to tolerate racists so we can unite the working class" level bs and I just don't know how to take it any other way. All trans people face transphobia and those terms don't take that away from anybody. And yeah, the discourse is forced, I'd rather not be writing this comment but somehow you ended up writing all of that on a good selfcrit post by a completely different user. Trans-misogyny erasure is terf rhetoric.