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[–] KokusnussRitter@discuss.tchncs.de 62 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Yesn't? I think it is possible to love your kid while being a shit parent. In fact I know. If anything I'd like to see it revamped into a bad parent attoning for their failures, accepting that they have harmed their kid and adress it with the kid. "I see now how I was a bad parent to you. I see the hurt I caused and I am sorry. And while it doesn't erase what happened, I will do better." I'd love that as a signal to bad parents that they can do better. An an empathic wake up call

[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 2 points 15 hours ago

My Hero Academia did this decently well with

spoilerEndeavour. He realises how much he fucked up and tries to fix it. Some of his family eventually accepts it while others never forgive him

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 47 points 1 day ago (2 children)

That's fair. The real issue is when that redemption is not earned, or when the fact that the parent did love them is used to garner them sympathy from the audience. Love without action doesn't count

[–] Zulu@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Yeah id be happy to see the parent attempting to atone, the child accepting that attempt, but still not forgiving them.

And then here's the important part, the parent keeps atoning even though they get no forgiveness from the child.

So much about that abusive relationship is tied to control. You need to re-earn trust.

Ive seen so many parents try to recognize their fuckup only for it to end in "well i tried once and the child didnt forgive me so screw that brat"

I agree. You need to reflect your own behaviour and adress it. Only then can this be meaningful.

[–] YoureHotCupCake@lemmy.world 25 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Also dont factor out someone's situation and how that contributes. My mom left when I was like 4 so my dad became a single father of three, he didn't want to be neglectful but he also had to work 12 hour shifts to afford the house and everything else we needed. Never once have I felt like my dad didn't love me I just wish society would be better so we could have spent more time together as a kid.

[–] skittle07crusher@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I can’t imagine.. sending love for little you and your two siblings. That’s a good dad who made you feel like this while also working such long shifts.

[–] YoureHotCupCake@lemmy.world 3 points 20 hours ago

Yup he's great, he made sure to cook homemade meals most nights after his long shifts and taking us out in nature on his days off.

[–] Snowcano@startrek.website 1 points 1 day ago

This x1000. Cobra Kai never dies!