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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Rainbow Railroad // A non-profit international humans rights organization helping at risk LGBTQ+ people relocate to safety.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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Awesome! I’m about 7 months behind you, and dilating suuuuucks lmao.
What depth did you achieve / want? Did you lose any, and were you able to regain it after time?
I’m so excited to hear about it getting better at some point, it’s a bit painful at the moment. :(
I did penciled inversion with tunica vaginalis, so using some lining of the scrotum to form the vagina.
It’s so much better than having the parts I didn’t want! Congratulations!
Dilating really does suck, it can be really painful and take a long time, and it can be really debilitating and reduces how much time and energy you have for anything else in your life.
it's sorta hard for me to know how to best measure depth, but basically the last dot on the dilator is visible still, the other dots are hidden - I think the depth is around 5 inches?
I don't think I lost any depth, but I was very vigilant and prioritized dilation above all else. My concern was more with losing girth, but I managed to dilate up to orange for each dilation (after the initial work up to orange, which maybe took a couple weeks?)
For me it seemed to get easier rather suddenly, within a couple weeks span around that 6 month mark - I just noticed dilations didn't cause so much pain that I was having to take meds, and they started to not take as long. Eventually they got easier and easier. I kept a log of my dilations, but I failed to keep track of when I initially started inserting, so that limits some of the usefulness of the information once I was using just the orange dilator from the beginning (instead of working up to orange first with smaller dilators), so, sorry I don't have more fine-tuned answers
That's a really good way to put it, lol. I think my vagina falls short of a natal vagina for me personally, but I still fully endorse having a neo-vagina over what was there before, and in general it has been very healthy for me to have made this change (in so so so many ways, even just the reduction in anxiety when using a public bathroom or going through TSA to fly).