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Went to 3-4 clubs last night. Security line was long, got patted down, multiple guards, metal detectors. I thought it was gonna be wild.

I was awestruck by the contrast in at least 2 clubs. The servers were in lingerie and had their ass and tits out (and I mean this positively because that’s the only good thing I can remember from my night out), Lil Jon and all the other club classics were blaring. Guys had on jeans and a tshirt and maybe a trucker hat or baseball hat, while their girlfriends were much more elegantly dressed. But regardless they just stood around or played cornhole.

The last one was a bit more high energy, but it was just people facing the DJ and vibing to it like a concert.

I don’t dance or anything either. I only went to maintain the illusion of being normal and social. But it was somehow even more awkward being around a bunch of awkward people than if everyone was dancing.

I don’t know. I was expecting it to be like the music videos with people dancing around the floor and mixing and mingling with each other. Is this normal in the US?

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[–] Euergetes@hexbear.net 8 points 1 week ago (1 children)

bars are not for dancing, get real. heap of hubris. some, with ample space can get a little dance floor going on occasion but it's not expected, or the rule. most don't have enough room even if the vibes are nice.

[–] danisth@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I know lots of places that blur the line between bar, venue and club, depending on the night. There would be dancing most nights, but sometimes with live music instead of a dj. And while the dance floor is prominent, you can easily just chill in a booth.

[–] Euergetes@hexbear.net 3 points 1 week ago

bar-cum-venue is definitely a grain of species, and do typically have a dance space, but in my experience they require a show to be happening for any dancing to happen.

like that's the difference; a club always has dancing and a bar might in specific circumstances