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Went to 3-4 clubs last night. Security line was long, got patted down, multiple guards, metal detectors. I thought it was gonna be wild.

I was awestruck by the contrast in at least 2 clubs. The servers were in lingerie and had their ass and tits out (and I mean this positively because that’s the only good thing I can remember from my night out), Lil Jon and all the other club classics were blaring. Guys had on jeans and a tshirt and maybe a trucker hat or baseball hat, while their girlfriends were much more elegantly dressed. But regardless they just stood around or played cornhole.

The last one was a bit more high energy, but it was just people facing the DJ and vibing to it like a concert.

I don’t dance or anything either. I only went to maintain the illusion of being normal and social. But it was somehow even more awkward being around a bunch of awkward people than if everyone was dancing.

I don’t know. I was expecting it to be like the music videos with people dancing around the floor and mixing and mingling with each other. Is this normal in the US?

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[–] came_apart_at_Kmart@hexbear.net 19 points 1 week ago

it really depends on the place, both the venue and the surrounding geography. the US is not a monolith.

but someone else said it best, regardless of the venue, the point of the "club" designated places in the US is to simulate a loci of social interaction to distract you while it separates you from your money.

the urbanized core of large metropolitan places can usually maintain the capacity of multiple places absolutely bumping 5-7 days a week, but the cool thing about those music videos is that they last like 4 minutes. unless you are rich, absolutely off your tits drunk / on drugs, and young with good stamina, it's pretty unpleasant after a bit. and the next day you're down like $50-100 and there are certain higher frequency pitches you will never hear again after your ears stop ringing.

but anyway, to find what you're looking for, you really have to ask around the city you're in to find the scene compatible with what you're looking for. it's certainly out there, but it might only be on certain nights a week due to a certain DJ or "theme" night.

an important lesson though is that for all its cultural exports, the US is not the place it advertises itself to be.

i once stumbled into an absolutely out of control music video style party at a rural hotel pool in cuba on a weekday at like 6pm. it wasn't a special occaision and none of them were from out of town. it was just the spot every young person in the area went to blow off steam at the end of the work day. it was loud, chaotic, and everybody was having a blast. i'm pretty sure some people were banging in the pool lol. the sort of thing the cops here would break up, because freedom or something.

the US used to have a whole phenomenon of warehouse parties, but the cops have more or less obliterated that. they really want the partying to happen in designated places at designated times where they can be posted up to arrest and harass people on a schedule, and you've seen how that mostly looks. it looks like people quietly playing cornhole with a $8 light beer in their hand.