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submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by DoisBigo@lemmy.eco.br to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

So...

I've always been quiet and never had much sex. That has changed. I'm in the kind of phase that people look at me and say: "You were so nice! What went wrong!?" And now I'll have sex with men, women, ~~hookers~~ escorts, ~~removeds~~ not fully transitioned MtoF transsexuals, robots, I'll probably engage in BDSM, piss play, breath play, and other exotic activities. I won't engange in drugs/chemsex that's where I draw the line.

Thus, the advice I've always been given and followed looks a little inadequate. Somehow saying to just use condoms, pills and IUD looks like insufficient knowledge to the kind of behavior I'll engage in.

Therefore I need to up my game into sex ed and STIs knowledge and prevention. I've been looking inton PrEP, but I really need to read more about diseases and prevention to protect myself and be able to treat myself if I catch something.

Any suggestion of videos, books, and other learning resources that goes beyond the "just use a condom and have a single partner?"

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[-] flubba86@lemmy.world 15 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm the least attractive guy you'll ever meet, I have zero self confidence, big social anxiety, and mild ASD. I have the personality of a disgruntled cat. Somehow even I have managed to not only have sexual partners, but also now I'm married and have two kids. This is not meant to be bragging at you, putting you down or rubbing it in. I am saying don't dispair, it can happen, and it does happen, and there is no secret, it's got nothing to do with being attractive.

[-] Fizz@lemmy.nz 6 points 1 year ago

You're never as ugly as you think you are. Don't be so hard on yourself.

[-] flubba86@lemmy.world 4 points 1 year ago

Well, my mum says I'm handsome, does that count?

this post was submitted on 27 Sep 2023
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