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Is it rude to interrogate downvoters? (piefed.blahaj.zone)
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I'm very curious about the reasoning different people use when deciding to downvote a post or comment. Often, when something gets "heavily" downvoted, the OP will ask some variation of "why the downvotes?". This is sometimes answered with sincere criticism, but sometimes is received even more poorly than the original offending post.

Do you downvote people who ask "why the downvotes?"? What informs the decision?

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[–] Objection@lemmy.ml 3 points 2 days ago

Imo this automatic disapproval of asking for clarification is toxic and promotes circlejerks. If you got something to say to me, say it, but I'm not going to bend over backwards trying to guess what I'd have to do to appease internet strangers. That's especially true of communities where terrible takes get massively upvoted, like that plus they won't even voice their problem, at some point you gotta write those types off.