Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
This is a supportive community for all transfeminine or questioning people. Anyone is welcome to participate in this community but disrupting the safety of this space for trans feminine people is unacceptable and will result in moderator action.
Debate surrounding transgender rights or acceptance will result in an immediate ban.
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This community is supportive of DIY HRT. Unsolicited medical advice or caution being given to people on DIY will result in moderator action.
Posters may express that they are looking for responses and support from groups with certain experiences (eg. trans people, trans people with supportive parents, trans parents.). Please respect those requests and be mindful that your experience may differ from others here.
Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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That can be rough, and I've seen a lot of trans folks express similar doubts. ๐ซ
First: HRT is completely reversible in the short term (some effects are permanent, but not usually until months in and even then they need time to grow/change). Remind yourself you can stop if you find it isn't helping you. Stopping if your feelings turn out to be true here is simply just that... stopping. You'll have lots of opportunities to figure out if you like the changes or not.
Second: I've had someone tell me, "if you do it when you're alone, you're not doing it for attention". That was in response to similar feelings you're expressing. I ride that question out every time I ask myself if I was right to transition. I've consistently found that I both do this while I'm alone and that I feel less and less unsure as time has gone on.
Try reminding yourself of that. Feeling doubt is feeling doubt, but does that doubt actually make you want to stop? Do you do it when you're alone? Is it for you or someone else?
We've spent our lives hiding our real selves. It can feel really scary to finally be this vulnerable and it can be very appealing to hide again. I'm happy you're giving yourself a chance.