Transfem
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
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ill usually just fall back to the age old "girl button" question, and every time without fail I would press a girl button. so that answers anything i neeed to hear to myself
I guess I need to get to that point then! I'll get there eventually :3 I honestly think I would just stand there indecisively staring at the button thinking.
cis folks wouldnt think twice about not hitting it so do with that what you will
Hmm, I think I might be somewhere between trans and girl rn then
nonbinary?
If thought about that, but I really like presenting feminine!
One of the friends I've made in an LGBT group in a small town in Ohio is transmasc nonbinary. On T for almost a year and getting top surgery soon.
They felt quite like you did, not entirely sure where they fell, and as they put it, "trying to find a neat little them-shaped hole to fit in. But there is no them-shaped hole, they had to find a spot on the spectrum that felt right and make the hole themselves."
I'm not sure if that's helpful to you at all, but I myself have been wrestling with my identity for some time, recently settling on being trans but still filled with doubt and uncertainty (super phobic religious upbringing really hindered me here), but after an outing recently where I was about 65% girlmoding that felt more right than anything I am more certain of my identity than ever.
It can take some time, but you'll get there!