“You just need discipline!” My barely-functional life is the result of already more discipline than you can muster on your best day because - you guessed it - ADHD 🙃

[–] Micromot@piefed.social 5 points 2 days ago

People talking about discipline make me angry. It just feels pretentious and like and imaginary attribute to me, like wanting to feel better about not questioning tasks given

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 8 points 2 days ago (2 children)

It's the second point there that makes me think I'm not just autistic.

A routine? I've never managed to have those. What I do have is having to constantly tell myself to do something. Every. Single. Time. And if it's interrupted for some reason? Fuck me!

Dentist is a condescending jerk about my not brushing my teeth because it is a constant struggle every morning.

[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 12 points 2 days ago (2 children)

AuDHD is a common comorbidity. I am too - it feels like two poorly trained huskies screaming at each other in your brain.

Sending empathetic vibes your way and hope you can get some sort of support/reprieve if you want it 🩵 /gen

[–] kieron115@startrek.website 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

ADHD huskie: I need stimulus now!

Autism huskie: Go clean the dishes that have been sitting for a week so you can enjoy yoursef!

ADHD huskie: No.

Austim huskie: Okay then sit around all day doing nothing thinking about how much you don't want to do the dishes.

ADHD huskie: fine

[–] monkeyman512@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

That is a take of the "there are 2 wolves inside you" thing I have never heard before.

[–] Arcanepotato@crazypeople.online 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I was going to say being susceptible to interruptions isn't just an ADHD thing but I forget I am AuDHD sometimes lol.

I keep trying to build a good morning routine but then garbage day happens and it's lost for the week lmao.

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This is why garbage is a two person job! My husband takes the garbage to the can, and the night before, I take the can out! So I can sleep to whatever time. Cause the garbage people either pick it up at fuck early o'clock, or not until the afternoon. No one here is trying to guess, entire street puts it out the day/night before.

[–] Arcanepotato@crazypeople.online 0 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Oh yeah I live in the country, it would be a disaster if I did that 😬

[–] SreudianFlip@sh.itjust.works 0 points 2 days ago (1 children)

We live in the country, and it turns out great that we don't have garbage pickup, because we also have fantastic and nearly complete recycling through a community facility that separates everything... batteries here, cream containers there, corks in this bin, foam there, electronics talk to that gal. Plus we compost or bury everything organic.

It means we pay $7 for a bag of garbage and we have to drop it off near the grocery store, but we only have one black bag every six weeks or so for a household of four.

[–] Arcanepotato@crazypeople.online 1 points 2 days ago

We have curb side recycling and organics pickup (although I compost most of it at home) and they will fuck up the recycling for fun or if there is even the slightest amount of residue. I rinse out soda cans :(

[–] weimaraner_of_doom@piefed.social 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Just make a routine!

I have a routine that rivals a priest on Easter Sunday. But the best written homily doesn't undo the fact that the organist is about to start the prelude and for the life of me, I can't figure out where those damned communion wafers have gone even though I swear I just saw them!

[–] SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

100% this. I have routines mapped out so I don't have to figure everything out again once my mind decides it's time to let me function for a bit.

[–] ericwdhs@discuss.online 0 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

This sounds like me. I've got a spreadsheet I go through daily with sections like "morning routine," "returning routine," "essential chores," "dinner routine," etc. It's set up to turn tasks green when I complete them so I get just enough of a dopamine hit to continue. There's also a dedicated column that's basically for "you've determined this is the optimal way to do this task after countless iterations; stop trying to rethink it and just do it."

[–] SoleInvictus@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 9 hours ago

There's something so comforting about learning other people have the same struggles I do. I've had to do the same thing regarding "optimizing" my routine, which is one of my favorite ways to procrastinate.

[–] panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 2 points 2 days ago

I am very disciplined when I’m in my rabbit holes.

[–] dangling_cat@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 2 days ago

10 whole days? Wow. I only made it to 3