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How do I spice up first date conversations? (piefed.social)

submitted 19 hours ago by Ek-Hou-Van-Braai@piefed.social to c/casualconversation@piefed.social

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I'm early 30's and got out of a bad relationship last year, and I've been going on a bunch of dates the last few months to find a kind and good partner.

I average about 2 first-dates a week, but I almost always feel a lack of chemistry and spark, the dates have almost become routine and I'm tired of the same old questions

How long have you been living in Amsterdam?
How's your family?
How's your job?
What are your hobbies etc. ?
Bla bla bla bla.

The times I did hit it off with a girl and it lead to follow up dates and/or a fling they asked some spicy and intimate questions and that made the conversation exciting and us connect on a deeper level.

The one girl steered the conversation to drugs, sex our experiences in therapy, childhood trauma etc. and fuck that was so engaging and fun and we hit it off. Unfortunately that only ended up in a fling and I want something more serious.

I'm not sure how to recreate that, I don't feel super comfortable steering the convo to a sexual nature and/or deeply personal things as a guy, I don't wana seem like a creep 🤷🏼‍♀️ but maybe I'm overthinking it.

Anyway how I can spice up first-date conversations?

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[–] swab148@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 18 hours ago

Just go completely unhinged. Instead of basic, boilerplate stuff, ask questions like, "What does your hair taste like?" "How many days has it been since your last rectal exam?" or, "Would you mind if I photoshopped my face onto yours in all your family photos?"

If they don't respond positively, they're not the one for you, and you should move on.