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If you only reach out to someone with straightforward requests, it seems like they're being used. I value the hypothetical you as an individual, rather than a resource that provides me with something.
I've grown to realize that most other people don't seem to feel the same way and I try to accommodate, but every time I start a conversation with a demand, it feels rude to me.
Just curious: Would you consider it rude if someone else sends you a text with a straightforward request? Or do you just feel like it could be perceived as rude when you do it?
If the only messages I ever receive from that person are requests and demands, I don't know if I would call it rude from them, but I certainly wouldn't feel valued as a person.
Okay I get that. However, I feel like this has nothing to do with the original issue. If I only ever receive "requests and demands" from someone it would not make it any better if they beforehand say "hey, do you have time for a quick question" every time.