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[–] TheFermentalist@reddthat.com 6 points 1 day ago (3 children)

No such thing as doesn’t pass. You tell me you’re a woman? Who the fuck am I to question what you feel in your bones? In the spirit of the republicans making shit up to disenfranchise, I hereby declare that you pass. As whatever the fuck you want, whenever the fuck you want to.

I will even print you a pass.

[–] WoodScientist@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I appreciate the thought here, but it's absurd to argue that passing "doesn't exist." Fine if you want to say it doesn't or shouldn't matter. Or that it gets too much focus placed on it. But to pretend passing simply doesn't exist? This is just gaslighting. Passing obviously does exist. It's specific definition would be "having an appearance that the vast majority of randomly selected people would say most resembles a gender other than that assigned to a person at birth." That's an objective fact. We can't just wish it away because it's inconvenient.

[–] maplesaga@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

What should the law be, everyone can use any washroom they want essentially, kind of a libertarian style system that removes all restrictions?

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 0 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Just one restroom. Stalls with urinals, stalls with toilets, floor to ceiling doors on all of them, and a communal sink area. Mox Boarding House has my perfect public restroom. Exactly like that.

[–] Soggy@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

When you have the space for it sure, but urinal stalls seem like an exorbitant luxury 99% of the time I need to pee. I'm fine with a wall-to-wall stainless steel trough.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

To give Mox credit in exorbitant luxury in bathrooms, there is a crystal chandelier over the sink, and no I’m not joking.

[–] Soggy@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

(Context for people not in the PNW, Mox Boarding House is a board game and card shop with an attached restaurant.)

[–] maplesaga@lemmy.world 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Why do you think we ever have different washrooms for men and women, what was their purpose for existing and how did they become so ubiquitous despite being an additional cost?

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I don’t know, cis people are weird about that sort of thing. I just exist here.

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (3 children)

In Oregon, today, in a performing theater of all places, as I entered the vestibule of the women's restroom, some old lady said "are you sure this is the men's room? Wanna go check the sign once again?"

So that fucked with my whole day.

I thought I looked good, looked stylish. 13 years of HRT is not enough apparently.

There's pictures of me on my userinfo page.

[–] oxideseven@lemmy.ca 1 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

"it's the women's, I'm a woman. Wanna go check it doesn't read "brainless muppet" you rotten hag?"

[–] tanisnikana@lemmy.world -1 points 21 hours ago

I am far too polite for that. I'm the sort that stands off to the side of the sidewalk when a bunch of people are walking in the opposite direction, and in a line abreast, and I wait patiently for them to go past. I'm the kind of person that does a quick bow when someone holds the door for me. I'm the kind of person who takes as little space as possible, and tries to be mindful of the harmony needed for society to move along.

[–] TheFermentalist@reddthat.com 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That picture of you is fucking stylish.

That is fucked up, and it’s absolutely shitty that you had to deal with that. My parents are the same sort of people. ( which is part of why I don’t talk to them).

You need to know: if it wasn’t this, they would still find a way to be cunts. Trans is seen as an easy target, particularly with the republicans in power. If it wasn’t this, there would be something.

This is the hard part: they want you to feel bad. It is their sole purpose in interacting with you. How you feel, only you have control over.

I tend to brutal rudeness when interacting with people like this, using language they don’t tolerate, and being personal about it.

That won’t work for everyone, and be mindful that law enforcement will back granny sour cunt over you, but be rude, be loud, embarrass them, because that’s what they are trying to do to you

[–] backalleycoyote@lemmy.today 3 points 1 day ago

I live in Idaho and guarantee this will be used by chucklefucks to not only harass trans people, but cis women who don’t fit their standard of beauty and effeminate cis men. Not that they don’t already, but now they can really fuck with someone by calling the cops and disrupting the person’s day rather than just snide comments.

I don't want to be toxically positive but
Girl you are an icon! I love your fashion posts

fuck that lady