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Tough one. I think the answer depends on what it means to be alone and what loneliness is.
In my 20s I had lots of friends I could call up and hang out with any night of the week, but I felt lonely because I didn't have a partner.
Now in my 40s I have a partner and 2 kids who are very dependent toddlers and I feel lonely because I feel like I care for them all so much but there's no one to care for me.
I guess loneliness is the feeling of wanting to share a specific thing and being unable to. With toddlers you realise there's an inverse feeling in that every moment of every day must be shared and sometimes it would be nice to be alone.
Like all feelings, if you try to embrace it and really feel it, rather than pushing it away, the feeling can quickly dissipate rather than consuming you.