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How do you deal with the reality of loneliness? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) by Alvaro@lemmy.blahaj.zone to c/asklemmy@lemmy.world

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What I mean is, how do you deal with the logical conclusion that no one can ever truly be relied on and that you can always find yourself alone with no support?

Or do you disagree with this conclusion and think that some people can be relied on and that you can know that you won't end up alone?

And if you are alone, how do you deal with the inherent human yearn for others when you know that you can never truly rely on them?

Edit: To clarify, I am talking about personal relationships and not about professional or paid help.

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[–] dlsloop@lemmy.zip 6 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I don't have an answer and it is the one thing I am truly afraid of. As an autistic man in this society I have come to the conclusion that I will most likely be alone in the future. Developing relationships of any kind is extremely difficult for me. Right now I'm ok because I have family that are still alive and want to care for me. But when they die where will I be? I've fully accepted that I may die by suicide in my 50s due to loneliness.

[–] Alvaro@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 months ago

Same here, and it really sucks. I see a lot of people being able to form new relationships relatively easily and maintain multiple relationships and I find myself for the most part incapable of maintaining more than one or two meaningful relationships, and when they end I usually end up being basically alone.