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The three times I fell in love, reciprocated, it happened very fast. Two or three days. A fourth time, we were both into it, but it was so very clear we were wrong for each other, and I stopped myself, and pulled back. The other relationships I've had were not love, just fun.
Yes, the "love at first sight" trope is somewhat true. Something clicks, and when you both feel it, and are willing, it takes no time at all to fall hard. The stories of people meeting and then spending the whole day together, then the night, and falling in love are sometimes true, it does happen. But, and this is very important, it happens in person, and it happens somewhat rarely. That's why you need to go out and physically be in the presence of other people, and interact with them. You can't do it over the phone. And, because it's not common, it is a "numbers game", the more people you meet, the better your chances.