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Any time someone gets a big old smirk on their face while they say, "Oh, I've got some controversial opinions," that usually means they're just a degenerate edgelord. Like, making a big show about how spicy your hot takes are is just the attention-grabbing behavior of someone who lives off of criticism because they are incapable of getting along with others.
I mean, I have some controversial opinions. For example: let's feed Peter Thiel to a shark, but a small shark, so that it takes a while. And sometimes you're not in an environment where you can say that. But if that's the case, then you just don't bring it up. If you are in a place where you can say that, then have the confidence to just say it.
But some people need to first make the conversation about them, and about how damn controversial they're about to be, before they've even said something in the first place. They're just enjoying the attention. Like they're edging to how heterodox they're about to be. And they're probably about to tell you that we were better off before women had college degrees.
Controversial becomes a goal post for some people. Aiming to have ___ opinions with any adjective other than ones relating to how that opinion is formed (well thought-out, logical, hasty (bad for a different reason)) makes for some of the most vulnerable people among humanity.
I said it very recently, and I'll say it again. People obsess way too fucking much over labels. Labels are a conversational tool meant to briefly describe something. The more you use them to determine how you should act, the more bogus you are. There are a couple exceptions, but aside from children in the developmental stages where labels play a massive role (I'm not a psychologist, someone correct me here if I'm off base), these are always™ because how you are perceived is fundamental to said label, e.g. hero, leader, representative. Please note that I'm not saying labels are never useful.
I'm open to debate on this.