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[–] imetators@lemmy.dbzer0.com 4 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Agreed on it being a hell. People shouldn't be shoved together too, but thing is that they chose to.

[–] Drusas@fedia.io 7 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

They chose to? All of them?

Most people live the life in front of them. Few people live the life of most resistance.

People live in cities because that's what society demands so that they can be "productive" and not starve to death. Or they're born there. Or or or....

It's easy to ignore the realities of others.

I live in a city because searching for affordable housing doesn't leave much choice. Waiting lists are months or even years long, so when a spot opens up, you take it.

I lucked out massively by landing the neighborhood I got. Traffic has its moments (mainly when events are going on at the local arena), but not any worse than I've experienced elsewhere outside the city. The walkability is a huge plus that outweighs it anyway, and is something that I never had in the suburbs.

It's not heaven, but it's certainly not hell. That said, I didn't have a choice, and that's the real issue at the heart of it all.