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[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 35 points 1 day ago (4 children)

The girls are alright, the boys are bitching about women in video games.

[–] Xylight 4 points 13 hours ago

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[–] modcolocko@lemmy.blahaj.zone 41 points 1 day ago (1 children)

don’t make broad assumptions like this

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 56 points 1 day ago (2 children)
[–] Tar_alcaran@sh.itjust.works 21 points 23 hours ago

I laughed at this so hard

[–] Aatube@kbin.melroy.org 9 points 1 day ago

hey :(

okay okay i get it i just said “not all boys” didn’t i

[–] FenrirIII@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Boys generally lack role models. It's all been downhill since we found out that Cosby is a monster.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 2 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago) (1 children)

That's so weird because guys have freaking batman and superman, presidents, prime ministers, princes, emperors, business leaders, most of hollywood directors, most doctors, and like a million male authors writing about the male perspective while there are women alive today who remember not being able to get a credit card or go into pubs alone. There are women alive today who are legally not allowed to go anywhere alone.

I'm a millenial who was told I wasn't allowed to work on cars for a high-school course because it's "too dirty." My electronics instructor wouldn't let me build a circuit board because "the math was too hard."

No male role models. Jesus Christ.

[–] FenrirIII@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Your response is a perfect example of how the mental health of men is constantly shit on. Just because women have it hard(er) doesn't mean that men can't suffer too.

Toxic masculinity and "alpha" culture is a blight upon humanity and it's scarring young boys who often have no real role models in their lives. Media is constantly blasting them with negativity and there's no one in their lives to explain it or counter it.

Your argument is that because women have it hard men need to shut up and deal with it. You're just as much a problem as people like your electronics instructor. Too short-sighted and focused on your own myopic world view that you don't care about anyone who isn't like you.

Shame on you.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 0 points 6 hours ago (1 children)

Your argument is a perfect example of men feeling attacked when a woman tries to correct them.

Forgot the whole part where I pointed out the many, many examples of male role models out there.

[–] FenrirIII@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

Wow. You had to 'correct' me. The hubris is insane.

As to your 'list' of rolemodels:

  • batman - rich orphan with serious mental issues who beats people up

  • superman - fictional character, but at least a decent person

  • presidents, prime ministers - Have you seen our leaders? They're some of the worst people in the world

  • princes, emperors - hereditary rulers who have historically abused their power in unhealthy and evil ways

  • business leaders - Really? They're worse than our elected politicians

  • most of hollywood directors - only role models for people who want to be directors

  • most doctors - What? Are doctors all figures of virtue and no one told me?

  • a million male authors writing about the male perspective - And there are no women authors out there doing the same?

  • There are women alive today who are legally not allowed to go anywhere alone. - And that sucks. It's a cultural issue reinforced by poor male leadership that is systemic exactly what I'm trying to point out.

  • Jesus Christ - fictional but requires checking out your common sense and reason

At this point I can't tell if you're trolling or not. I'm getting "All Lives Matter" flashbacks having to read your posts.

[–] Holytimes@sh.itjust.works 4 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

Mr rogers sitting quietly on his chair sad and forgotten... ):

[–] FenrirIII@lemmy.world 2 points 6 hours ago

Media replaced him with creeps like Joe Rogan