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Online and life. Don’t take anything personally. Everybody has got an axe to grind and hardly anybody is open to changing their mind.
Not everyone is wired to be able to follow your advice. When people start making personal attacks against others in online discussions, such insults can reaffirm doubts and insecurities already present in the person on the receiving end (not to mention trauma). I would never place the burden of responsibility on the one being attacked in this way - the responsibility lies solely with the bullies to change their act and with the community to speak out against them.
The internet doesn’t have to follow you around. You can decide to shut if off. Talk to friends and family. Go out in nature. Find a therapist. Sure, people should be nice, but individuals also have a responsibility to themselves to take care of their mental wellbeing.
That's not how the world works, though, we can't just snap our fingers and make everyone think thoroughly and empathetically before they say something. One will or won't learn to better handle words, and that's entirely for one's wellbeing, so I think it's better to try to do so (and hope you don't have to deal with too many bullies, regardless).