this post was submitted on 18 Feb 2026
8 points (100.0% liked)
Melbourne
2487 readers
29 users here now
This community is a place created for the people of Melbourne and Victoria. We are a positive, welcoming and inclusive community. We might not agree about everything, but we always strive to stay civil and respectful.
The focus of our discussions is based around things that affect Victoria, but we are also free to discuss our local perspective on wider issues. Or head to the regular Daily Random Discussion thread to talk about anything.
Ongoing discussions, FAQs & Resources (still under construction)
Adoption Certificate for Nellie, the Daily Thread numbat (with thanks to @Catfish)
founded 3 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
I don't think that's a sign to run for the hills straight away. How long were they together? Do you have any inkling that he's not over it or you'd just be a rebound? Are you looking for a reason to run?
If you mean rebound.. naww
5 months is okay.
Yea go with your gut.
I might be wrong but if he goes on and on about his ex then probably red flag but until then you never know :)
I don't understand why that's a red flag
Three weeks is quick. Five months is fine.
It seems that YOU want to be single though. Which is fine. You seem to finding any reason not to date these guys.
I think that's the thing with relationships, if you're not prepared to get hurt you're not really committing to them. It's a Catch-22 for sure.
There's nothing wrong with being careful.
The problem is when that care builds a wall around you.
And that you become comfortable behind it.
My 2 cents.
That's a good thing right?
Excellent :)
For a different perspective: I was 2 months single, and still living with my ex, when I met my now-partner. Together since Jan 2019.
It can work out. Unless you got icks for other reasons, I'd suggest at least a third date to see where his head is at.
Aw thank you! I'm not saying you should give this guy another chance btw, follow your gut instinct 100% with dating!!
Just that it might not mean anything to him/affecting him negatively :)
I trust you know this dude better than us, so ultimately listen to what your heart is telling you ๐
At least he is single....
that sounds like one of those unfounded stupid things that you can read on the internet
and something I asked my clinical psych, she said it's meaningless, people get on with life
if you like the guy that's what counts, make the effort ๐
I had one of those. The Ex was knocked up.