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I don't understand why that's a red flag
The first thing that came up when I found out was that maybe he's not happy being alone if he's dating that quickly after a breakup.
Three weeks is quick. Five months is fine.
It seems that YOU want to be single though. Which is fine. You seem to finding any reason not to date these guys.
Yeah maybe that is the case. I think I'm hypervigilant because I don't want to get hurt again.
I think that's the thing with relationships, if you're not prepared to get hurt you're not really committing to them. It's a Catch-22 for sure.
Very true. I know that if I do get hurt, I can deal with it though.
There's nothing wrong with being careful.
The problem is when that care builds a wall around you.
And that you become comfortable behind it.
My 2 cents.
We just called and spoke on the phone for almost two hours, and it felt like the first date again
That's a good thing right?
Yes!
Excellent :)