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A bit gross. Even more so if the woman is not welcoming to that sort of thing. ..OTOH to be fair if they are both into it then okay it's between those two.
That exact situation has happened at the building I work in, older 50's maintenance guy keeps calling out to and trying to have conversations with my early 20's coworker. She finds it extra gross that the married guy has a daughter about her age. At one point she got stuck riding the elevator with the guy and he tried touching/grabbing her shoulder and she noped out of there as soon as the elevator opened. At this point pretty much everyone at my work area knows about it and warns her whenever he is around so she just kind of avoids/hides from the guy.
What I find interesting is when older guys exhibit that sort of behavior, do they think it's just private between the two of them? Younger women like to talk and they definitely will talk about this stuff to friends/coworkers.
Sounds like she needs to talk to HR about it.