196
Community Rules
You must post before you leave
Be nice. Assume others have good intent (within reason).
Block or ignore posts, comments, and users that irritate you in some way rather than engaging. Report if they are actually breaking community rules.
Use content warnings and/or mark as NSFW when appropriate. Most posts with content warnings likely need to be marked NSFW.
Most 196 posts are memes, shitposts, cute images, or even just recent things that happened, etc. There is no real theme, but try to avoid posts that are very inflammatory, offensive, very low quality, or very "off topic".
Bigotry is not allowed, this includes (but is not limited to): Homophobia, Transphobia, Racism, Sexism, Abelism, Classism, or discrimination based on things like Ethnicity, Nationality, Language, or Religion.
Avoid shilling for corporations, posting advertisements, or promoting exploitation of workers.
Proselytization, support, or defense of authoritarianism is not welcome. This includes but is not limited to: imperialism, nationalism, genocide denial, ethnic or racial supremacy, fascism, Nazism, Marxism-Leninism, Maoism, etc.
Avoid AI generated content.
Avoid misinformation.
Avoid incomprehensible posts.
No threats or personal attacks.
No spam.
Moderator Guidelines
Moderator Guidelines
- Don’t be mean to users. Be gentle or neutral.
- Most moderator actions which have a modlog message should include your username.
- When in doubt about whether or not a user is problematic, send them a DM.
- Don’t waste time debating/arguing with problematic users.
- Assume the best, but don’t tolerate sealioning/just asking questions/concern trolling.
- Ask another mod to take over cases you struggle with, if you get tired, or when things get personal.
- Ask the other mods for advice when things get complicated.
- Share everything you do in the mod matrix, both so several mods aren't unknowingly handling the same issues, but also so you can receive feedback on what you intend to do.
- Don't rush mod actions. If a case doesn't need to be handled right away, consider taking a short break before getting to it. This is to say, cool down and make room for feedback.
- Don’t perform too much moderation in the comments, except if you want a verdict to be public or to ask people to dial a convo down/stop. Single comment warnings are okay.
- Send users concise DMs about verdicts about them, such as bans etc, except in cases where it is clear we don’t want them at all, such as obvious transphobes. No need to notify someone they haven’t been banned of course.
- Explain to a user why their behavior is problematic and how it is distressing others rather than engage with whatever they are saying. Ask them to avoid this in the future and send them packing if they do not comply.
- First warn users, then temp ban them, then finally perma ban them when they break the rules or act inappropriately. Skip steps if necessary.
- Use neutral statements like “this statement can be considered transphobic” rather than “you are being transphobic”.
- No large decisions or actions without community input (polls or meta posts f.ex.).
- Large internal decisions (such as ousting a mod) might require a vote, needing more than 50% of the votes to pass. Also consider asking the community for feedback.
- Remember you are a voluntary moderator. You don’t get paid. Take a break when you need one. Perhaps ask another moderator to step in if necessary.
view the rest of the comments
YES YOU COLOSSAL FUCKING CLOWN! I'm defending the right of enbies to present how they want to fucking present! I don't care if they look like a damn power lifter, a genderless Fae being, or a goddamned Victoria's Secret model, the only "requirement" to be nonbinary is to IDENTIFY AS NONBINARY!!
Edit: To elaborate for others who might come later "Female-lite" is a reductive term that means that nonbinary is essentially just "person that I can perceive as woman, but is trying to distance from the baggage of misogyny" while "female heavy" refers to just "presenting too much like a woman" in this case. One is an actual erasure of identity by way of saying oh you're basically women in all but name, the other is trying to police someone's gender presentation because it's not androgynous enough for you.
So you're not defending the rights of "female-light" enbies, just everyone else.
Ah yes, because that is the takeaway from "defending the right of enbies to present how they want to present," and "female/woman lite" has totally never been used to erase and other any nonbinary person who isn't a thin white androgynous AFAB person. Oh that's not nonbinary, they're too masculine/feminine. That's a gay man, that's a trans woman in denial, that's .
So now you're arguing on my side. Thank you, I was beginning to think you'd never understand where I was coming from
So you admit you've been twisting words this entire time in a desperate attempt to be right? Fuck all the way off you miserable little gremlin. Fuck out of here trying to say oh now I'm arguing your side you fucking clown.
My first reply was "feels like enby erasure" ... your last reply before this one was talking about enby erasure from the same point of view.
If you've got tied up like a pretzel over this, that's your problem ... as I said earlier, I lashed out and that was unreasonable of me. Now you're the one being unreasonable - I'll have you know I'm not a "miserable little gremlin". I'm actually quite large.