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Where are you getting all this info from? From the perspective of the comic, ignoring that it's a meme comic, there's no way to tell what gender either character was assigned at birth, let alone any of the other details. Either one could've been AMAB, and the second one is at least a former cutter based on the scars (the shoulder is a popular location because it doesn't show when you wear a t-shirt). Was that from dysphoria? Who knows, they didn't tell us. Edit: just went back and realized those are folds in the sleeve of their shirt, not scars. This image needs more pixels.
From a broader perspective: ...yes? To be considered a certain gender you only need to identify as that gender. There are no other requirements. You don't need to act a certain way, look a certain way, or even have dysphoria. Is a trans woman who's in the closet not a woman? If they identify as a woman, they're a woman. If they identify as nonbinary, then they're nonbinary.
The dysphoria one is also a big one for me, so I'm gonna talk about it specifically just in case it helps someone who happens to read this: you don't need to have dysphoria in order to be trans. You don't. If you're happy as your AGAB but feel like you'd be happier as another gender, then go ahead and transition. Or don't. Or only go as far as makes you happy. Because at the end of the day, it's about being comfortable in your own skin.
So many trans people think "well, I didn't have dysphoria as a kid so I can't be trans" or some variation of that thought, only to transition and either find out that, yes, they did experience dysphoria and just couldn't tell because it was their normal everyday experience, or experience the more important gender euphoria after they transition.