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How do I convince an illiterate family member to let me teach them how to read? (literature.cafe)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by Karl@literature.cafe to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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They have never been to school. They've never said anything about wanting to read. But when they have to read something, they pretend they forgot their glasses or smth like that. They're insecure about it. I feel sad for them. That said, they're pretty stubborn. What can I possibly do to convince them to try learning?

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[–] jbrains@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I will note here that I have tried earnestly to ask OP questions that would help me offer better advice than the generic slop I could offer without knowing more about the situation.

Knowing that OP might not trust me enough yet and might assume that my questions were expressing indirect doubts about their motivation, I emphasized that I'm not criticizing them, but asking genuine questions in order to gather information with which to help more effectively.

Subsequently, more than one person has doubted my motivations for asking these questions and already some seem unwilling to take my answers at face value.

See? Maybe it's not as simple as "But I want to help!" I want to help and some of you seem really suspicious both of my intentions and my methods before even giving OP the opportunity to answer my first question.

Now maybe OP's relative would feel similarly about being approached to learn to read.

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