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How do I convince an illiterate family member to let me teach them how to read? (literature.cafe)

submitted 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) by Karl@literature.cafe to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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They have never been to school. They've never said anything about wanting to read. But when they have to read something, they pretend they forgot their glasses or smth like that. They're insecure about it. I feel sad for them. That said, they're pretty stubborn. What can I possibly do to convince them to try learning?

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[–] funkajunk@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Their motivation can be as simple as "I want to".

I'm not really sure what you're hoping to achieve with this line of questioning?

[–] jbrains@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I know what it can be, but I don't know what it is. When I know more, I can offer more helpful advice.

For example, if their motivation really is as simple as "I want to", then quite frankly, their relative has no obligation to give OP what they want by letting OP help. And trying to force that on their relative seems risky and invites failure. This is known as "inflicting help" and is a very common source of friction in relationships.

That's why I'm asking.