Risa

It’s not saying to be a jerk to people.

“Masking” is when a person with autism hides associated mannerisms in order to blend in with neurotypical people (make themselves “more palatable”), such as avoiding hand stims or atypical (but still healthy) reactions of enthusiasm.

“Unmasking” doesn’t mean giving up anything you do to be considerate of others (such as not giving unsolicited 15 minute rants about my hyper fixations); it just means not trying to pretend to be a neurotypical person, consciously or subconsciously, and to just be your authentic self, autistic self.

Speaking as a therapist.. Seriously... I'd say it in the right context... Its not a binary thing, caring what other people think.

Of course it matters, and sometimes it really hurts someone when they're caught between who they are and who they believe they should be.

So if the client had made unmasking a therapeutic goal and I knew they identified with Spock it might be a fun way to encourage them not to negotiate on points that are entirely their choice.

Tell me you don't understand "masking" without using those words. 🤌🏼

HEAVILY depends on what “masking” is in this particular circumstance