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Thanks! Honestly, this is a big part of why I asked. My partner and I are currently discovering that our newborn child (Who will most likely end up with 3 passports until old enough to make a decision) might not be able to use the same name combination in all the countries it makes sense (Dad is from one country, mom from another, and we live in a third. We are not married) for a combination of legal and cultural reasons. (2 european countries, one asian) Its a bit of a bureaucratic adventure.
We are exploring our options and looking at people who might be in similar situations :)
We only had to deal with three EU countries and it was already messy. We are married, but kept separate family names. One of the three countries did not allow the kids to have the mother’s family name (yeah equality…/s), so we had to go with the father’s family name.
I assume you already checked your situation, but few countries accept “the right of land”, aka citizenship upon birth in that country, so we didn’t have to deal too much with the country with were in. Except for filling in the birth certificate that generates all other documents.
Yeah. Our baby will have the citizenships from both parents from birth, then "earn" the right to one where we are living in after having lived here for 3 years. We still need to remember to apply though. We are realizing this would have been easier had we been married before birth.
It is not unusual to get a partnership recognized just for this reason. (I honestly have a very down to earth view on marriage, so I’m all for getting married for the papers)