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About fatphobia, how do you stay proudly loving your body and showing yourself off despite other's self-projections of their own insecurities onto you? (hexbear.net)
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I don't think I'm paranoid that people quietly think them. I may not always know when, but I know the sight of my stomach triggers people's insecurities.

One time I saw a woman with a stomach as big as an exercise ball in a crop top, and I've aspired to rock out as shamelessly as she did in her fully exposed stomach ever since.

This matters to me: I don't think she was pregnant. And I feel that means she didn't need a pregnancy as "excuse" to know she's entitled to proudly showing off her belly.

Btw, I think we've got to depict bellies as a sexy part of the body more. Even on abs, imo, a little pudge can look nice.

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[โ€“] FlakesBongler@hexbear.net 13 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Well, I think a big part of it for me is that I lost the weight once

I worked out hard for years, got down to a slim 165 and was feeling pretty adequate

then I moved, got an office job, put on 60 pounds, got depressed, put on another 30 pounds and wallowed for a bit

Then I realized, i'm still the same person I was back then

I'm still in good condition, I run 4.5 miles most days of the week, I still pack a nasty right hook

So what if I need bigger clothes? I'm fucking dynamic! A goddamn sexual tyrannosaurus!

[โ€“] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 2 points 23 hours ago

Oh hell yeah! You can protect yourself and you're still fit. I wanna practice a mean right hook too.