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I'm in the process of moving over all my photos etc. from Google-Photos to Immich, some pics dating back to 2006 So it's 20 years of photos etc.

There is a LOT of photos mixed in there with me and ex's where we went on trips and traveled together etc.
Pics where they are in group shots with friends, spicy pics, pics with family during Christmas etc.

I'm a bit conflicted about what do do with these.
Spicy pics should probably be deleted. Pics where they happen to be in group shots with family or friends feel excessive to delete?

There's a lot of great memories there, it's a 20 year photo diary of things I've done in my life and places I've been. Do I delete any containing ex's and lose those memories? How do I even begin to do this there are 20k photos mixed in over 20 years

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[–] ButteryMonkey@piefed.social 2 points 21 hours ago

I’ve deleted the ones of abusive/traumatic exes, and kept the rest. It’s part of my history and who I am, and while some of them don’t deserve a place in my active memories, others don’t deserve to be as fully erased.

I made a backup of all the pics I deleted, threw them on a thumb drive labeled “bad memories”, and threw it in a box of very very old computer stuff (cables with no clear device, dongles that haven’t been compatible with anything in 15+ years, 27 sd adapters, etc. you know, garbage that hasn’t been thrown out). That way if I ever regret getting rid of them for whatever reason, I haven’t, but it’s also super clear I didn’t keep them for reminiscing.

Ultimately, do whatever makes you feel right. They are your pictures of your life and your memories, and if someone wants to get upset over things you did in the past, probably before you even knew them, that’s honestly a them problem, not a problem with anything you are doing. Like a new partner wanting you to get rid of your cat/dog/hamster because you got it with your ex.