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Dad keeps misgendering me and my friend + wouldn't let me hang out with him (lemmings.world)

submitted 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) by blackwitch@lemmings.world to c/ftm@lemmy.blahaj.zone

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What should I do? On my male days, I get misgendered intentionally and called "my girl/daughter" by my transphobic dad who says "people think boys can be girls and I hate it!!"

He also keeps calling my male friend a "she" when he doesn't even look like a girl, he looks pretty gender-neutral/masc and just may look feminine to him because he's pre-T (he's only 16).

I thought of one thing, and last time he said I couldn't hang out with him because he was trans but didn't have a face to match up with the name or me just saying "a friend" so he may let me hang out with him, thinking he's "a girl" and just a tomboy so I can finally sleep over.

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[–] girlthing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

I'm still dealing with shitty parents myself. What's ultimately helped is distance - spending less time around them and more time with people who won't treat me like garbage. Eventually, after getting used to dealing with stuff without my parents around, I became a bit more confident about my own worth and validity, and less afraid of their disapproval and scorn. I've had to move back in with them recently, and the improvement is really clear - while they've only gotten worse as people, they've mostly lost their ability to make me feel like shit all the time.