I remember numerous months ago when a study came out showing that of the people now identifying as LGBT+, most of them were bisexual. Somebody commented something along the lines of “this kinda proves my theory that everyone is bisexual.” I’ve seen this sentiment before then, though.
I have mixed feelings: most of the people proposing this are themselves bisexual and usually saying it in good faith. I have little doubt that there are more bisexuals than we think, too; they hesitate to identify as such due to factors like stigmatization and unawareness.
Even so, this suggestion still rubs me the wrong way: it invalidates our own identities and implies that we “just haven’t found the right man yet”, like we only need to subject ourselves to dozens of guys (either in person or from photographs) and eventually we’ll win the lottery. There are plenty of other things that I would rather be doing. I suppose that somebody could argue that I must be bisexual because umpteen years ago I found a few guys attractive, but that categorization would be so misleading as to be useless.
What do you think?
I think I just don't understand how monosexuality works when it intersects with trans/GNC/enby folks. Do you wait until you know someone's gender until you are attracted to them? Are certain pronouns a turnoff? Some femboys are suuuuuper fem, and some trans women present more masc. And I know some lesbians use he/him pronouns.
It seems like the sharp lines between genders just completely collapse into a fuzzy cloud when you get too queer with it.
Maybe I'm just too bisexual and nonbinary to get it.
Sexuality labels are descriptive not prescriptive. Exceptions can exist. Exceptions can prove the rule. The universe is complex, fuzzy, and indifferent to our attempts to categorize it.
I can see where you're coming from, the flip side for me is that I work with a lot of hetero-presenting men and find them physically unappealing ... while almost any other gender presentation can be appealing.
Perhaps my sexuality is simply not-straight™
I'm 90% sure transphobia comes from uptight cis men terrified that they'll accidentally go home with / r**e a trans woman and it'll somehow make them gay, because willies. I think that's why they want to keep us out of the women's bathroom. So they can see who goes into the women's bathroom before they decide who's drink to put the ghb in.