I remember numerous months ago when a study came out showing that of the people now identifying as LGBT+, most of them were bisexual. Somebody commented something along the lines of “this kinda proves my theory that everyone is bisexual.” I’ve seen this sentiment before then, though.
I have mixed feelings: most of the people proposing this are themselves bisexual and usually saying it in good faith. I have little doubt that there are more bisexuals than we think, too; they hesitate to identify as such due to factors like stigmatization and unawareness.
Even so, this suggestion still rubs me the wrong way: it invalidates our own identities and implies that we “just haven’t found the right man yet”, like we only need to subject ourselves to dozens of guys (either in person or from photographs) and eventually we’ll win the lottery. There are plenty of other things that I would rather be doing. I suppose that somebody could argue that I must be bisexual because umpteen years ago I found a few guys attractive, but that categorization would be so misleading as to be useless.
What do you think?
I think this view is wrong in a large variety of ways. First off, as is most relevant to this community, gay erasure. I have zero interest whatsoever in men, and I've already gone down the route of trying to figure out if I'm bi or lesbian. Second off, erasure of literally every other sexuality out there, including the most common: hetero. I think it's ridiculous to say that the entirety of the straight-identifying population just hasn't found the right person to change their idea of their sexuality. Plenty of people are just straight, nothing else about it. I've met many, many women who have zero attraction to other women, and are so unfamiliar with the concept of sexual interest that even incredibly obvious flirting is merely seen as friendly. It's perfectly okay for someone to be straight, and it's my firm belief that there are plenty of people who are.