I remember numerous months ago when a study came out showing that of the people now identifying as LGBT+, most of them were bisexual. Somebody commented something along the lines of “this kinda proves my theory that everyone is bisexual.” I’ve seen this sentiment before then, though.
I have mixed feelings: most of the people proposing this are themselves bisexual and usually saying it in good faith. I have little doubt that there are more bisexuals than we think, too; they hesitate to identify as such due to factors like stigmatization and unawareness.
Even so, this suggestion still rubs me the wrong way: it invalidates our own identities and implies that we “just haven’t found the right man yet”, like we only need to subject ourselves to dozens of guys (either in person or from photographs) and eventually we’ll win the lottery. There are plenty of other things that I would rather be doing. I suppose that somebody could argue that I must be bisexual because umpteen years ago I found a few guys attractive, but that categorization would be so misleading as to be useless.
What do you think?
Bi guy, so if this ain't the space to say this, lemme know I'll delete.
I think if we lost the stigma around sexuality there would be far far more bisexuals or at least people who have had encounters with people of the same and different genders, but I don't think it would become 100% of the population. I've met plenty of men and women who only want to date men and women respectively, it doesn't read as true that their feelings are solely based in some internalized biphobia. I suppose some of them had heterosexual experiences before they found themselves, but I don't think that is a sign of bisexual, rather heteronormitivity.