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Is it ok to say "when I was a little boy" or describe my 8-year-old self as a boy from this information? (thelemmy.club)

submitted 1 week ago by may_be@thelemmy.club to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Back when I was 8, I wanted to be just like my dad (before finding out his actual personality). I wanted to have the bodily characteristics of an AMAB person if that makes sense, IDK how to word it. I wanted to be mistaken for a boy, do the stereotypical boy things, reject makeup and dresses, and I went through a "girls stink" phase like some young boys did. I wanted my hair cut short because it made me look like a boy and even wanted to wear my dad's clothes simply because they were "men's clothes".

“Girl" didn't feel right to me but growing up in a certain kind of family, all I knew was the word "tomboy", so I used that. But my family tried to convince me I was the most feminine girly girl, and that just wasn't me. It felt wrong.

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[–] cerebralhawks@lemmy.dbzer0.com 6 points 1 week ago

Definitely an unusual situation, so there’s no easy answer.

Reminds me of the scene from Predestination where the guy opens his story with “when I was a little girl.” It has transgender elements to the story but it isn’t a trans story. And that’s all I’ll say. Wild ride.