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Thank you so much! This helps actually. Yeah she's absolutely terrified of all the stuff trump is doing, shit I forgot to mention that. Like she's worried that if she starts it, then Trump does something to cut off it off when she's in the middle of it, it's gonna be even worse for her
that's a v legit concern, i think any trans people in the u.s. should be looking into stock-piling prescriptions if they can, and/or look into diy hrt.
there are plenty of guides online for diy hrt, like this one: https://slrpnk.net/post/16002807
it sounds intimidating & clandestine & everything, but you can get pharmaceutical-grade hrt from places where they're more widely available, if where she lives isn't providing her with enough options.
Oh no :/ Yeah I already talked to her about that, I'm not sure what sub it was but I went and read one of their guides on it. She's open to it like I said, it's the social stuff that is stopping her. And trump cutting supplies when she's on them, which would be horrible, I understand that. My mom is trans too, so it's an issue close to my heart, and I'd really like to help somehow. Though I know it's ultimately just up to whenever she feels comfortable.
if she chooses to socially transition & never to do anything else, that's perfectly valid. a lot of trans people choose this route, and it'll be immensely helpful for her to have a supportive friend like you around.
if she chooses to medically transition as well, on her own timeline that she's comfortable with, it'll be immensely helpful for her to have a supportive friend like you around.
basically, you're already doing what you can by being there for her, whatever happens 🫶
She WANTS to though. Like, a lot. She makes those "and this is what I would do with my boobs...IF I HAD THEM" jokes and aw I feel bad. My bio dad now mom was SUCH a fucking asshole before she transitioned and now she's just a different person. I mean my friend's not an asshole but I want her to come into herself like my mom did if that makes sense.
if she wants to, but doesn't feel safe to, then her decision not to start yet is still valid. there's also no rush, early twenties is so young & she has decades & decades of her life ahead of her, where her circumstances could change dramatically & she might then feel completely safe to start hormones.
safety is often a factor when trans people choose not to medically transition, or to detransition.
it sucks & of course ideally, we'd all live in a place where these decisions can be freely made without having to consider safety, but ultimately it's each trans person's decision to make for themselves, because no one can guarantee safety.
Yeah of course. I was just wondering if there was anything I could do to make that process easier I guess. I'm just trying to be a good friend.