Flickerby

I'll vent a bit here to get started. When I was 15 I was sexually assaulted by a woman and no one would believe me. Or if they did believe me, it was the "well what's the problem, was she ugly or something?" Usual spiel. I still have PTSD over this but I cannot speak of it to anyone because it's the same shit over and over again. When I was 16 my girlfriend put out her cigarette on me for the first time. This would continue for the next year and a half before I managed to leave her. I still have over a dozen scars inflicted by her.

I have an EXTREMELY hard time trusting anyone or forming attachments in general because of what's been done to me and I really don't have anyone to talk to about it other than my brother, who went through his own physical. When I was 21 I got into a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship and I let that go on for three years because I had been conditioned into thinking that it was normal, and I had to just "man up" and take it in my previous relationship so I considered the step down from physical abuse to be a bit of a blessing. It wasn't.

I wish I had had someone to tell me that none of this was okay, that I did not have to let myself suffer through these things, that just because I was a man did not mean that I was a free ride to whoever wanted me and I shouldn't compain because I "got some", that I am a human being who has feelings and emotions and should be allowed to express them without being threatened with physical harm.

I want everyone in this place to be that kind of person for everyone else in this place. I want this to be a place free of judgement to share the things that you can't share with others. And I want us to come together as a community to support everyone who comes here seeking help. Life fucking sucks but together we can make it a little less sucky.

After seeing so many people feel so ostracized I wanted a community they could feel welcomed in. This is I hope going to be a positive male-orienated space. No alpha male Peterson bullshit, no sexism, no putting down people, this is a space for men to bring each other up and vent their issues they would otherwise be judged for to people who will understand and build them up rather than bring them down.

Not uh sure what to say here. Never done anything like this before but I've grown tired of seeing so many people hurt so badly in so many comments. This space is meant for people who identify as male to air their grievances and come together as a community to help build each other up. Sexism will NOT be tolerated, this isn't a "complain about your partner" club, nor will dumb made up shit like alpha male Peterson bullshit. Otherwise feel free to talk about what you're unable to talk about in your daily life or just whatever I suppose so long as it isn't shitty to a group in general.

Edit: Nevermind, got it figured, thank you though!