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I'm learning Russian and I don't know what it is for that, but in German I've seen "xier", "sier", and "dey". I might use "dey/dem".

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[–] thelsim@sh.itjust.works 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

There’s no real consensus on it yet in Dutch, but the most common are either hen/hun or die/diens. Both are known words that can be repurposed, but both have some disadvantages when it comes to certain grammatical rules.
There’s also some initiatives on new words, but they haven’t really gotten much traction yet.

There’s a rather lengthy article here in Dutch that explains it in depth:
https://taaladvies.net/taal-en-gender-verwijswoorden-voor-vrouwen-mannen-en-non-binaire-personen-algemeen/

[–] gerryflap@feddit.nl 2 points 2 days ago

Yeah. They/them feels quite natural, but compared to that all Dutch alternatives feel a bit forced. Maybe it's better just to find something new, but good luck teaching those to people.