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My grandparents showed up again and I am totally confused on what to do to reinforce this (hexbear.net)
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I don't know what part of my boundary was equivocal.

Really, all I see it as is that they are invalidating queerness so much that they think a boundary based on queerness is totally valid for them to ignore.

I don't even know what to do.

cw: sa/mental healththey have a r*pist mentality, and honestly, the helplessness I feel comes so close that being in this situation reminds me of how distressed I felt during my SA. It honestly led me to tears right now. I hate how trauma from that literally had to be reignited just because my grandparents can't respect boundaries.

Oddly enough, they tried to use one of my uncles as a proxy a few days ago. They did this to ask me if I want Christmas lunch with them. I told them "No," but they still came. This is undoubtedly a r*pist mentality.

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[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 2 points 1 week ago

Can you get a peephole installed on your front door to see who's outside? It's kind of dangerous that you must crack your door just to see who's there.