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I read some people who vent on their posts or talk about problems they face in life and the replies they get is, no you are the problem, fuck you.

On Reddit, the only thing that is close to this is when women complain about their boyfriends, they got told to leave them, whatever is her complaint about.

Any explanation?

Disclaimer: I am not talking about my own experiences here, but rather what I read in other posts, my observations could be wrong.

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[–] TheTechnician27@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Beyond the rules/guidelines of the site and the community, someone commenting on a Reddit-like has no responsibility to filter what they write through the lens of what the author would want.

It's the poster's job to find a community that they find suitable for both what they're writing and what they want the comments to look like. That's how it works because Reddit-likes aren't blogs; they're shared spaces where everybody – within aforementioned rules/guidelines – is free to express exactly how they feel about anything.

You unduly shift responsibility onto the commenters for not acting the way the OP wants their vent sesh to go when it's the poster's responsibility to 1) know the comments exist and 2) understand that they're putting this work out into a shared space.

I'm not trying to explain how I think people should behave, I'm trying to answer a question about why I think people behave a certain way.