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It's not an uncommon opinion, but:
People are horrible by default. We are generally mean, stupid, and crazy and have to learn to be otherwise, and most of us never achieve such mastery.
I actually hold the opposite opinion; that most people are generally good, or at the least, focused on their own problems most of the time.
This isn't just personal experience (I'm old so have a bunch) but one example is that I watch a lot of travelling vlogs, mostly motorbikes. Whenever a rider has a breakdown, even in the middle of nowhere, someone will be along and will help. Even allowing for a general positive bias of the media, those who would take advantage of that situation are a tiny percentage.
What does happen though, is that those who aren't good can abuse the goodness of others to gain power and influence, so are statistically more noticable.
If you only saw a bear in a circus you would think it's nature was to ride a unicycle.
Humans have had to live in brutish/nasty conditions; including the present day, where many of us are drowning in debt, two paychecks away from homelessness while a few are trying to make more money than they could ever spend.
I'll counter and say that it's culture/conditions-based. Humans have a range of available/possible behaviors/thought patterns and they are reinforced/shaped by their surroundings/the system they live in. There are and have been egalitarian societies that aren't full of "mean, stupid, and crazy" people.
edit: and adding a short video https://youtu.be/Est6nay4Z5E?t=18
edit: some books that are on my TBR that might be worth checking out:
I know others have already replied with counterarguments, but as a simple partial counterpoint, the fact that everyone alive are decedents of those who survived the hunter-gatherer stages of their society, for a long long time, is evidence that we're generally capable of learning to be caring, smart and sane, it's not some utopian advanced stage beyond our grasp. Prior to our technological developments like food preservation, individualistic societies were not viable.