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thank you. that's very useful advice. sounds like a v similar situation to what I'm going through. I've definitely felt what you mean about just being friends and this lightening the relation up a bit; I've genuinely enjoyed hanging out with her lately with no strings attached.
After reading more comments, more things match. I too am living with her with a rent contract that should end in april. Im sure it is best to not live together, but moving out is a bit too complicated to do quickly. My income isnt stable, neither is hers, so we lean on eachother.
I guess I wish us both good luck.
Im enjoying being as real as possible with her, and i see her doing an effort to be real too. We sometimes get mad at the situation and and are a bit hurtful to eachother, but im finding that its possible to see the human behind those behaviours and not make it the end of the world like society seems to expect of us.
good luck to you too. It's a really shitty situation. I'm trying to start dating to take my mind off things, at least casually, to help with the self-esteem blow that it's been. idk if that's a good idea but it's helping in the short term to remind myself that whatever happens, I will find happiness somehow.
Im sorry, i take back part of what i said. If the person is lying too much, its probably better to distance yourself from them. Im being too passive and its just getting worse...
I think youre on the right path, see some friends and get your mind on something else.